Is it possible to perceive others without, in some way, judging or categorizing them? If so, how? If not, how can we make the judgments we do make, more fair?
I don’t think it’s possible to perceive others without in some way judging or categorizing them. It’s not a bad thing to have initial assumptions and judgments towards people because we use this as a defense mechanism at times. For example, as an extreme, you wouldn’t approach a man in a van trying to bribe you with candy to get in with him.
Having those initial feelings towards someone is natural, but what we do with them after the meeting is a critical part in making them “more fair.” To make them “more fair,” we have them then leave them “at the door” and give the person the benefit of the doubt. We shouldn’t keep the judgments and hold it against the person before they’ve even had time open up to you and show they’re true personality.
I feel that people these days are so judgmental that they lose out on really different, nice, genuine people. Life is too short to not go out in the world and grow with people different than you and get exposed to new things.
Hi Therza! You said that we need to leave judgments at the door. Do you think a person can truly do this? By this I mean pushing the judgments aside and really getting to know the person? Or do you think those judgments will always remain to a certain extent? :)
ReplyDeleteI can only base this from my own experiences. I believe in the saying "Do To Others What You Want Them To Do To You." I wouldn't want others to judge me before can even say anything, so I try really hard to leave my judgments at the door. I think people hold on to their judgments as a precaution. The world is so fast pace now and people don't take the time to really listen to people.
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