Do you agree that men and women use language differently? In what areas?
I do think men and women use language differently. They use different language styles in romantic relationships, parenting styles, and other relationships in general like friends and family.
In most romantic relationships women tend to be more caring, and sharing style when they speak. Women are more willing to be open and voice their feelings to their partner. Men tend to be more the opposite and into showing their emotion through actions. Also, they seem to simplify things opposed to women giving more detailed and more reasons when they talk about things.
Parenting styles are very different in my household growing up. I had a strict dad and my mother is really soft spoken and maternal of course. My dad would talk to us in a firm and demanding way even if he wasn’t necessarily feeling that way. My mother is nice and warm when she talks to us and makes us feel comfortable to talk to her.
Depending on how good of friends you are, men and women tend to speak differently to their closest and not so close friends. From personal experiences, I can adapt really well to people and personalities and figuring out whether how “manly” or “girly” I have to be. Loll. For example, I was with a classmate of mine and his friend; we were talking about sports and some other stories. I tended to use a lot of bad words but still said “awww…” or gasped with an “Oh my goodness” in disgust. On the other hand, with my gal pals, I find myself using “feeling” words and expressing and expanding more on what I would talk about. (there would be a bad word here in there. loll)
Goof point bringing up parenting styles, I would not typically think of that. But it is very true. Although my parents parenting styles were the same the way they communicate with each other was, and still is very different.
ReplyDeleteI sort of agree that women are more open in a relationship. But not sure if that is always the case. I used to date this guy that was WAY more open about his feelings then I was. It used to start to annoy me. I guess in that situation I was communicating more like the man, and him the woman, such a horribly stereotypical thing to say, I know. But I guess our views on gender communication styles come from our views on gender roles.
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Hi Therza,
ReplyDeleteI can partially agree with you that sometimes women and men communicate differently in romantic relationships but not all the time. I feel that movies and TV that twisted the way a woman or a man should be in relationships. But I have seen relationships where the man is completely emotional and expressive; while the woman is completely quiet and reserved. I guess it all depends on what you wrote on parenting styles but it also depends on what we indulge ourselves into on a daily basis. The way we talk can sometimes be an effect from the movies & tv shows we watch, the music we listen to , the books we read, and the people we surround ourselves with. So if we surround ourselves with rap music a lot, some of us may pick up some of their talking styles, if we spend our time around classical books, some of us may pick up their language. It's really weird how we can adapt to our environment like that and be a mirror image of it.
Hi therZA,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with what you commented on regarding men and women use language differently in styles of romantic relationships, parenting styles, and other relationships in general like friends and family.
A girlfriend shared about she and her husband just celebrated another wedding anniversary. They were high school sweethearts and they got married right after they graduated. She went on to say that each anniversary card that she gives him, she would really put a lot if thought into writing him a letter reminiscing the good old days. Well, on this occasion, she told us, he must have forgotten and last minute picked up a card and just wrote his name. Boy was she ticked. However, we just laughed because we all agreed, that’s the way men are (my apologies for generalization and for those guys who are a rare gem).
Hi Therza! I also agree that in some situations men and women can use language differently. I thought it was interesting how you stated that there can also be language differences in romantic situations, parenting, and friends. I must say that there is some language differences between men and women in romantic situations. I don’t agree that all men aren’t caring or emotional to their significant other. I think that has more to do with personality. I believe that men use language to show their masculinity and women use language to show their femininity. That has to do with our gender differences being expected and taught to us from the day we’re born. I appreciate how you gave your own personal experiences on how your parents used language differently from one another. I enjoyed reading your post and
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