Think about the filters you use to eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners. What characteristics or behaviours lead you to judge others as unattractive? Does Duck's theory make sense to you? Have you ever eliminated someone by using a sociological or pre-interaction cue only to reconsider them based on interaction and cognitive cues?
The interaction cue is the factor that would make me either like the person and consider them as a potential romantic partner because this determines whether we have things in common through having conversations to see if it’s rewarding to both sides. This is the part where I see if the potential can keep up with either playful banter or serious and intellectual conversation.
Duck’s theory does make sense to me because I have been in a long distance relationship myself and physical proximity is a big factor in why my relationship didn’t work. Being away for long periods of time without seeing your partner can take a toll on you mentally, physically, and emotionally. Sociological and incidental cues are major factors in which a long distance relationship can either work or crash and burn. Long distance relationships need a certain type of strength and a certain type of mentality from the people involved.
Hi THERZA!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your post this week. I also felt that Interaction cues very important. "The ability to manage conversations and to make interaction rewarding is an important factor in increasing attractiveness" page 160. I think this is so true! I must say that holding a long involving conversation can make someone even more attractive. Talking on the phone for hours or sitting at dinner for after the restaurant has closed are all important and can make someone more attractive. I also agree that in a relationship being close to your significant other is extremely important. I have also been in a long distance relationship that had failed. Your post was great!